It may sound harsh, but I recommend not discussing concealed carry with your friends or neighbors. Your handgun does not exist until you are training or you are forced to use it. It is a tool of last resort.
There seems to be a new trend growing in the attack on our ability to carry concealed. It’s not coming from the local LEO—it’s coming from those folks you call your friends and neighbors. I’ve been presented with three different cases in the past 60 days dealing with similar issues.
#1 – Civil Stalking Protection Order
The first involved a neighbor who did not like the fact that the family next door always carried concealed. The neighbor filed for a civil stalking protection order not because there was any actual stalking but rather to restrict the ability of the CHL to carry at all. It took a two day trial to resolve that matter in favor of the CHL individual.
#2 – Argument Leads to Loss of License
The second involved an argument between two neighbors standing in the street. When the police arrived, the non-CHL party told police that the CHL person threatened her with a gun. That CHL individual gave up her handgun license to avoid the expense of contesting it in court.
#3 – Road Rage and a CHL
The third involved a non CHL driver who became enraged when a CHL driver stopped suddenly to avoid hitting another car. An argument ensued. The police have filed disorderly conduct charges against the CHL driver and the non - CHL driver is threatening civil litigation claiming that the CHL driver threatened he would defend himself with a gun if necessary.
So, it’s not always the “system” that tries to restrict our privilege of carrying concealed. The real lesson to be learned in these three recent examples is that if you tell someone that you carry concealed they may use it against you some day. The easiest way to create problems for you is for them to file for a stalking protection order requesting restriction of handgun rights, or lie to some law enforcement officer that you threatened to use your handgun. Suddenly, you may be faced with defending yourself in costly litigation or giving up your handgun rights. Never discuss your handgun, never show your handgun and never threaten to use your handgun. It’s a tool of last resort only. It doesn’t exist until then.